Many a fellow parent has commented to Frank and me, “I don’t know how you do it!”
And I’ve been all like, “Um, what? Raise two infants simultaneously? Like that’s hard or something?”
Ha ha. Ha. Hummm.
It’s time to fess up.
Raising twins is like juggling grenades: If you drop one, everyone gets blown up.
Ok, maybe that’s a bit dramatic.
But let’s be clear: twin infants (even twinfants who enjoy projectile vomiting all.the.time) are a piece of cake, once you get them sleeping through the night. From 4 months through 13 months, it’s all just a matter of budgeting a little extra time to accommodate doing everything twice.
Twin toddlers? It’s like dealing with lunatic zombies. Cute lunatic zombies, but lunatic zombies all the same.
Logistically, if both Frank and I are watching the girls, it’s easy-peasy. Man-on-man defense. Done.
The challenge is when we are doing some demented version of zone defense because one of us is at work. That’s when it gets exciting.
Case in point: Frank left the room to brush his teeth. He was gone 2 1/2 minutes, tops.
He came back to the twins perched on top of their changing table having a grand old time. They scaled the rocking chair and the dresser to get on top of their changing table pad. And they were smiling like they were supposed to be there.
They love to dance on top of our glass topped coffee table. Specifically, they love dancing to Rolling Stones on our glass topped coffee table.
The second we put them down in the family room, they identify all of the weak points and attack relentlessly. Remote controls? Cell phones? Glasses? Open baby gates? Nothing slips by them.
And the twins are completely fearless, a la lunatic zombies. I’ve noticed other toddlers are more hesitant to go down the slide at the park, but not our girls. Ellie, our generally more cautious girl, went down the slide the other day, her foot caught and she summersaulted the rest of the way down. I thought for SURE there would be tears. She stood up, brushed herself off, and hurried back to the stairs to go down the slide again. What the what?!
This weekend I took the girls to the park solo. Seemed reasonable enough. How bad can a park be?
I don’t know if you’ve been to a park these days, but holy-crapola, these parks are DEATH traps. Sure, they coat everything in rubber and plastic, but every single piece of equipment has a side that is a free-fall into wood chips. If you are only watching one toddler, this wouldn’t be a problem, but since I am watching two lunatic zombie toddlers, this is a major issue. Carrie likes to walk right up to the edge and growl at me.
Again, this would be fine if I wasn’t already distracted by Ellie going up and down the stairs to the slide with the grace of a heavily intoxicated, stiletto-wearing monkey.
Oh, and then there are the communication issues. The girls know how to wave “hi” and “bye”. This is really cute until Carrie is waving “bye” as she walks off in one direction and Ellie sprints in the other. They only sort of understand “Stop!” and “SIT STILL!” and “STAY THERE!” We’re working on it, but right now the communication gap adds a totally interesting layer.
So yeah, raising two toddlers makes for some very interesting/challenging/exciting/crazy times. I’m forever grateful that strollers and wagons have seat belts. And I’m even more grateful that I have a husband who is truly a partner in raising these girls – cuz man alive, I certainly wouldn’t want to do this solo all the time!